* This post is in response to Michael Hooper's article, "Sperm donor takes case to Supreme Court", in the Topeka Capital-Journal on March 19, 2008.
Typical bureaucracy at work.
On one hand the government says it must force fathers to "be responsible". It passes more laws, hires more caseworkers, kicks in doors, even throws fathers in jail to force them to "be responsible". On the other hand, the courts decide that fathers won't be allowed to even BE fathers unless they have permission from the mother?
Most fathers are the best fathers they can be. But many fathers get blocked by vindictive mothers, biased judges, and a legal system that is hell-bent on destroying lives and families to keep itself in business. (see <Here> and <Here> and <Here> for related letters.)
I personally don't like what I've seen from this Daryl Hendrix guy. I heard him on the Jim Cates Show a few months ago and he said, "I don't want to go down the fathers' rights path...", like it's a bad thing. Maybe he was trying to be politically correct, I don't know. What I DO know is that a lot of people don't think before they speak. They don't care what happens to other people as long as it doesn't happen to them. They know what the courts are doing is wrong. They see me organize rallies to stand up for our rights as parents (see <Here> for example). But instead of stepping up and helping us defend their rights, they turn and walk away. Some are too lazy or apathetic, others think it won't happen to them, and everyone has an excuse for not getting involved. And when they finally get pulled into the system, they expect me to jump at the "opportunity" to help them.
The courts are segregating parents into unequal classes (custodial and non-custodial), which encourages parents to fight each other for power. Divorce and custody battles are big business for attorneys, mediators, judges, caseworkers, therapists, and other professionals who make their living off broken families. It's no longer about right and wrong; now the courts are mostly concerned about the almighty bottom dollar.
It's time to reign in the courts and end the bureaucratic industry of family destruction. The first step is to force the legal system to recognize Mothers and Fathers equally as parents (with equal rights and equal responsibilities), unless they are proven unfit by a jury. Each parent should have the child 1/2 the time (or as close as possible), and family law needs reformed so that it encourages parents to work together to raise their children instead of fighting for power in court.
Thomas Lessman
. http://www.thomaslessman.com/
Blog: http://www.talessman.blogspot.com/
Email: talessman@yis.us
* * * Equal Rights for parents website: http://www.acfc.org/ .
*** http://www.hisside.com/, Glenn Sacks' radio show and blog about men's and fathers' issues.
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1 comment:
Can't imagine what I could add to anything you said here today Thomas. I heard the guy on Jim's show a couple of time too. I didn't like him either, my reasons are a litle different though.
You see, I tend to look at it through the kids eyes. Even if this case had gone his way from the beginning, the kids were going to grow up in a broken, dyfunctional family. Maybe I'll talk about it in my column one day.
Keep up the good work my friend.
Kevin McGinty
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